Mpendwa msomaji wangu hebu chukua muda wako kidogo jiulize kwa upole na kwa upendo hilo swali hapo juu. (My dear reader take your little time ask yourself gently and lovingly the above question.)

And Jesus answered and spoke to them again by parables and said:
“The kingdom of heaven is like a certain king who arranged a marriage for his son,
and sent out his servants to call those who were invited to the wedding; and they were not willing to come.
Again, he sent out other servants, saying, ‘Tell those who are invited, “See, I have prepared my dinner; my oxen and fatted cattle are killed, and all things are ready. Come to the wedding.” ’
But they made light of it and went their ways, one to his own farm, another to his business.
And the rest seized his servants, treated them spitefully, and killed them.
But when the king heard about it, he was furious. And he sent out his armies, destroyed those murderers, and burned up their city.
Then he said to his servants, ‘The wedding is ready, but those who were invited were not worthy.
Therefore go into the highways, and as many as you find, invite to the wedding.’
So those servants went out into the highways and gathered together all whom they found, both bad and good. And the wedding hall was filled with guests.
“But when the king came in to see the guests, he saw a man there who did not have on a wedding garment.
So he said to him, ‘Friend, how did you come in here without a wedding garment?’ And he was speechless.
Then the king said to the servants, ‘Bind him hand and foot, take him away, and cast him into outer darkness; there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.’
“For many are called, but few are chosen.”

Naye Yesu akajibu, akasema nao tena kwa mifano, akasema:
“Ufalme wa mbinguni umefanana na mfalme mmoja aliyemfanyia mwanawe arusi;
akawatuma watumwa wake kuwaita wale walioalikwa arusini; na hawakuwa tayari kuja.
Akatuma tena watumishi wengine, akisema, Waambieni wale walioalikwa, Tazameni, nimeandaa karamu yangu; ng’ombe wangu na ng’ombe wanono wamechinjwa, na vitu vyote viko tayari. Njoo kwenye harusi.” ‘
Lakini hawakujali, wakaenda zao, mmoja shambani kwake, mwingine kwenye biashara yake.
Na wengine wakawakamata watumishi wake, wakawatendea kwa chuki, na kuwaua.
Lakini mfalme aliposikia kuhusu hilo, alikasirika. Naye akapeleka majeshi yake, akawaangamiza wauaji wale, na kuuteketeza mji wao.
Kisha akawaambia watumishi wake, ‘Karamu ya arusi iko tayari, lakini wale walioalikwa hawakustahili.
Basi enendeni katika njia kuu, na wote mtakaowapata, waiteni arusini.
Basi wale watumishi wakatoka wakaenda njia kuu na kuwakusanya wote waliowakuta, waovu na wema. Na ukumbi wa harusi ulijaa wageni.
“Lakini mfalme alipoingia kuwaona wageni, akaona mle mtu ambaye hakuwa amevaa vazi la arusi.
Kwa hiyo akamwambia, ‘Rafiki, uliingiaje humu bila vazi la arusi?’ Naye hakuwa na la kusema.
Ndipo mfalme akawaambia watumishi, ‘Mfungeni mikono na miguu, mchukueni, mkamtupe katika giza la nje; huko kutakuwa na kilio na kusaga meno.’
“Kwa maana wengi walioitwa, lakini wachache wamechaguliwa.”

Je, ndoa hua ni ya likizo! Je, ndoa hua ni ya likizo!

Je, wanandoa ambao wamekuwa pamoja kwa muda mrefu au mfupi wanapokumbana na matatizo ya ndoa, wanaruhusiwa kuachana kila mmoja aishi kivyake? Are couples who have been together for a long time or who are experiencing marital problems allowed to divorce each other?

Ni nini hasa chanzo cha matatizo makubwa ya ndoa? What is the real source of marital problems?

Mpenzi msomaji wangu utakubaliana nami kwamba ndoa sio ya likizo wala ndoa sio ya mandhari. My dear reader will agree with me that marriage is not a holiday nor is marriage a vacation duration or just for picnic duration.

Baadhi ya wanandoa huingia katika ndoa wakiwa na mtazamo tofauti na matarajio mengine mengi ambayo ni gushi kuliko inavyotarajiwa! Some couples enter marriage with a different outlook than many other normal expectations these expectations are more fake than the expected expectations!

Baadhi yao hukubali kuoa wakiwa na mtazamo mmoja; kujaribu. Some of them agree to marry with one attitude; to try.

Wengine hukubali kuolewa kukimbia au kutoroka hali yao fulani halisi. Others accept marriage as a way to escape or escape from reality.

Vyovyote itakavyokuwa, ndoa sio ya likizo wala ndoa sio ya mandhari. In any case, marriage is not a holiday nor is it for vacation duration or just picnic time.

God bless you and your family 💖